Friday, December 28, 2012
Anyway I was browsing online and came across the Whats Your Yogi name posting! For fun I figured mine out...Aspen Namaste Moon! It fits! LOL
I added Bikram Yoga back to my workouts for 2013 because a friend of my from high school mentioned he tried it after I talked about it and how hard it was but he stuck to it! I told him that was awesome!! But it made me think dang I ain't been in a minute myself! Even before surgery! Honestly I think I went to Fusion Yoga in Seattle and maybe one more class with my Sorors in the spring of 2012! Nada since!
2012 has been hectic but with all good things and I feel like 2013 the journey of wellness as I call it will fall more so into a spiritual context instead of it being so physical. So I think yoga is an excellent addition and main stay for my upcoming year.
With that being said yall know I love a party so I invited people to go with me, my sister, and my Mom last Sunday and two friends came! I know I have discussed Hot Yoga before but because I am a bad blogger I don't tag my post properly for easy locating. LOL Apologies!
Anyway, I went Sunday evening and this was unlike any other Hot Yoga class I have taken before. The instructor was very laid back, kinda casual and she just walked up to the front of class when it was time to start. Some introduce themselves, ask if anyone is new, give a mediation before opening up the practice, warn you about the fact that your mind will wander away, etc. Nope! Not her! She just hit the radio and started playing reggae music.
In all honesty I found that a little jarring lol I like the meditation type music. I mean I'm Jamaican reggae music is to party not meditate! LOL
The room is typically between 99 degrees and 105 degrees. So while your body is adjusting to the heat and all those thoughts about how hot it is now I am at war with my hips trying to groove to the beat!
The poses were not difficult and I was able to do most! I opted out of the head stand and back bend however. :-)
While I was in class I thought about so many things I tried to keep my focus but my medition was one of prayer to God thanking him for health and life. So everything some random AKA thought or dating worry or greedy craving crossed my mind I drew my mind back to being grateful.
The instructor made a suggestion that when the thoughts comes, because they will, try to mentally wipe them away and clear your path again. Now I have sooo many thoughts so quickly gently wiping something away wasnt working for me. So I started to think about that video "Wipe Me Down" You have to sit through about 2 minutes to see the visual but it is worth it! LOL the first time I saw the video I thought it was genius the way the screen was wiped away so that's my new!
Bad thought? Wipe me Down! Negative self image? Wipe Me Down! Wandering mind when I need to be present? Whip Me Down! I see myself sliding the idea away quickly! And it is gone and it worked!
The Hot Yoga class was helpful to reset my mind and be aware of my mind's tendency to not be present. I started thinking about what I would eat after class? Will I take pictures? Did I answer that email? When is the next meeting? Did I wrap that gift? Just everywhere other than in that room. Life can be like that for us. Never fully appreciating where we are and being anxious about the next step which totally puts us in a place of being worried and that isn't good for the mind or body.
My goal is to do hot yoga every week. So just call me Aspen Namaste Moon!!!
I put an invitation out there to the Sorors in my Facebook workout group and 9 said they would come! That's awesome! Support is sooo important so is accountability! The likelihood that I will miss that workout is slim to none!
I was asked to be an accountability partner by a Soror and I told her we can hold each other accountable! I don't wake up happy and excited every day! And I guess I give that impression. I tend to begin my day with uplifting quotes and good thoughts to GET my mind my right! It doesn't come that way! Some assembly is REQUIRED!
That's why Weight Watchers and other groups work for me because we feed off each other. There is no way I can pull anyone along on this journey! We have to own it and hold each other up! So she understood and I told her to jump in the group and post her workouts! And she did! And so did I! I don't like to do stuff all willy nilly BUT I did not do a workout plan for the week so that helped me to focus! So what my week looks like!
Fri: Rest/Massage * Can't wait!
Sat: Kickboxing & Teadmill * 30 mins
Sunday: Treadmill & Eliptical and Bikram Yoga
Monday: Spin & Kickboxing
Tuesday: Spin & Treadmill *30
Weds: Chizel It with my personal trainer
Thursday: EBoard meeting
Fri: Dinner with Sorors in DC then bowling with Sorors and the Ques That's my plan for the week!
The first of the year is coming don't wait until then! Get a good workout in this weekend! :-)
Check back soon!!!
Wednesday, December 26, 2012
I hope you all have been well! I had a great Christmas with friends and family and I am looking forward to the new year! I hope you all had a great holiday too and are looking forward to all that 2013 has to offer! I had a really amazing 2012 and I am working on other aspects of my journey as I have often said this is a mental, spiritual, emotional, and physical journey.
I found a new church home. I am really excited about what I am learning and how I am growing at New Psalmist Baptist Church.
I won a big award I am very proud of that was given by The Daily Record. The award is called Leading Women and it identifies women age 40 or younger for the tremendous accomplishments they have made so far in their career. We were judged on professional experience, community involvement and a commitment to inspiring change.
Oh the health and fitness front I am feeling good. I had a great workout this week. I did everything from Spinning to Extreme Kickboxing to Swimming!! I know right!!!
I felt really inspired to jump back into my workouts because of the Black Girls Run: Baltimore~ Little Black Dress Challenge! So the group leader posted the idea of this challenge and I loved it! The goal is to find a dress (either buy a goal dress or dig one out from your closet) that doesn't fit the way you would like it to right now and take picture of it (or you in it) and post it to the group and then we will have a "reveal" date in the spring to see how far we have come to reaching that goal! I have two nice black wrap dresses that kinda fit but if I could lose these 20 pounds they would be perfect!
So I got to making a Vision Board!!! So as you can see I plan to put in some WERK!!! I placed my goals on the board and so far so good! I have done 2/3 days of walk/jog run goal, I did Hot yoga on Sunday, I am drinking my water, praying daily and journaling more. I am getting on my clean eating and weight lifting next week.
My vision boards are like my children so I try not to pick favorites but I must say I realllllyyyyy love this board a lotttttttt!!!! :-)
Well its back to the lab a.k.a. the gym tonight I plan to do spinning and 30 minutes on the treadmill!
I packed my breakfast, lunch, and even snacks! Its only 10am and I already had 32 oz of water and I am working on my second serving! Oh and I am going to work on my new affirmations for 2013 based on the Joyce Meyer book "Change Your Words, Change Your Life"
Today is a good day!!! I'll check back soon!
Thursday, October 18, 2012
|My First SJ|
#1) SJS~ for the longest time I said I would not be a St. John Soror! In my Sorority St. John Suits seem to come along with the membership card! I am not a fan of knit attire and I love me some Jones New York and Calvin Klein! They are sharp and more forgiving for more figures lol BUT I took the plunge and got in on the St. John action! I went to another chapter's anniversary luncheon and it seemed like the perfect time to wear it! I really liked the way it all came together and well 2 weeks ago when I lost the 10 pounds it zipped (lol) and it is...a size...10! Now I am guessing because its knit it is even more forgiving and I shouldn't be so judgy about it! Either way I liked it and got lots of compliments! :-) I'll be investing...because theya re an investment in a few more...So never say never lesson #1
65 switch kick
40 power jacks
85 power knees
33 power jump
9 power squats
7 suicide jumps
35 push ups on knees (no push up jacks)
23 Low plank knees
I know, I know its not what people do it's your reaction to what they do is what matters yadda yadda yadda. I am burnt out on dating and meeting new people and hearing new stories and the like. But I mentioned I met someone and it seems he is in the same "space" dating fatigue space and so we are speaking and getting to know one another and have planned 2 dates 2 weeks in a row and they haven't panned out. :-/
I don't like that. I said and he agreed because we are in that place there is low to no pressure and I do like that but I am human. If I am anticipating a date and it doesn't pan out its disappointing. And disappointments are deadly for me because I know I am an emotional eater. So I am left with what to do...again stakes are low but are stakes ever really that low in matters of the heart? Ahhh what's a girl to do!? I've had great convos before and things don't go anywhere...which in some respects is fine because my constant prayer is if he isnt the one for me move him out the way quickly. I may need to flip the script and say don't send anyone not for me my way lol cut out the in between time lol
On the plus side, it is a chance to really get to know him and vice versa. He does ask some really great questions. Really great questions about my goals, my friends, etc... And he is funny which is critical but what can I say only time will tell and worst case I gain a friend :-)
You should know in my head I am really saying I have enough friends lol but that would be rude to say out loud lol
I ended up going to the store closest to my bus stop and grabbed a few things for work! Now that is a BIG deal because that adds like 30 minutes to my commute the later I go but it was worth it. See below!
Over all for the 5 weeks lose 10 pounds, improve my cardio, and be consistent!
I'll be back!!! :-)
Wednesday, October 17, 2012
|Last night @ the Debate Watch party hosted by the Deltas! |
Politricks is a serious matter but I was all smiles! Word to Big Bird!
Welllll I stumbled upon my first Barre Class!! I mentioned in my last post that I got a groupon for the Barre classes and explained what the class was about. I know if I was a good blogger I would refer you back to the link and all but yall know me by now..or soon will for the new folks lol
In short Barre is a new workout craze its a combination of ballet, pilates, and yoga. If you think about it ballet dancers do have very lean and trim bodies so needless to say their workouts are like that! I went to the gym on Sunday to take Spinning and Body Pump and as I was dropping off my spinning number at the front desk I saw a sign up sheet for Barre! I won't go into how long it took me to get the information I needed and I should email Lynne Bricks about her people BUT since they are typically on point and it was a Sunday I let it go. Well in my own way... lol
Anyway a few of the ladies that were taking the class overheard all the back and forth with the front desk clerk and said the teacher would let me take the first class for free so I followed them! I had to get a few items a yoga mat, exercise ball, and small weights I opted for the 3 and 5 pounders. One of the ladies warned me it was a lot of small movements so don't get anything too heavy. That's my set up below!
Well I stayed with the 3 lbs weights the wholeee time!!! I will say this about the class they were very welcoming I let them know I lost a lot of weight regained some and lost about half of what I regained and wanted to mix my workouts up a little bit. They all said they loved what the class has done for their bodies and its intense. That's the word they kept using over and over lol intense!
Well the teacher came in and recognized me as new and she assured me I will love the results! Sidebar: After class we got to talking and she actually reads my blog lol How cool is that! A/w the music was great very Madonna, Foo Foo Fighters, upbeat empowering tunes. I didn't expect that thinking back to my days as a dancer *cough* when I was six years old *cough* everything was very clean and white and quiet! Not Barre! LOL The music was actually a little loud and in your face and that should have served as a warning.
The class started with push ups! What class starts with push ups? LOL It went down hill pretty quickly. The class is no joke! I will say the teacher did tell me that I was a quick study because most of the time you are on your toes with your heels together doing squats and leg lifts! It is hard! Very hard to focus your mind when your body is hurting! LOL
My legs were not happy with me at all! But I like the challenge! It is always good to mix it up so I am excited for the next 10 classes to see how far I will go!
As I mentioned before I have a workout group on facebook for my sorority sisters and I just realized Thanksgiving is only 5 weeks away! I sent out a call for sorors to join the group and do a 5 Week Fitness Challenge leading up to Turkey day! Close to 30 new members joined the group!! How exciting!! I need the support and accountability!! One goal is to do intentional exercise every day for the 5 weeks. It can be anything but it must be on purpose! I also want to lose 10 pounds that's 2 pounds a week. And I want to at least set a date to take the spinning certification class. A soror reminded me this weekend that I had that on my 2012 Vision Board I would like to see that through!
Anyyyhoooo I trolled the Internet to find pictures of some of the moves from class and found some good ones! I would highly recommend the class and I was able to get it for $125 for 10 classes so that's $12.50 a class! That's not bad!
Everyone warned me I'd be so sore the following day and I was a little bit sore but mostly my smaller muscles like my triceps and unknown back muscles. I burned about 700 calories in 1 hours which I did not expect at all but your heart rate stays pretty elevated and I was dripping with sweat. So that will be my Sunday go to workouts 8:30 spinning then 9:30 Barre! I will just need a change of clothing lol
Here are some pictures! Enjoy! If you try it out let me know what you think!!
Friday, October 12, 2012
Ok here's for the recipes and reviews!
Recipe: Homemade Chicken Soup/Stew
1 Box of chicken broth
Handful of Cilantro
4 Cho Cho/ choyate squash
4 pieces of chicken thighs ( you can use legs, or breast)
a tablespoon of olive oil
and sea salt to taste
Boil all the ingredients together for about 1 hour on a store top on med/high heat. Done quick and easy! You can feel free to add more veggies like squash, sweet potatoes, eggplant, etc.
Recipe #2- Flatout bread Pizza! De-lish!
All you need is your Flatout Bread
Pasta sauce I used Prego but any will do! You only need about 2 Tablespoons worth
shredded cheese I prefer the Italian blend
Some pepperoni (turkey or the real thing)
and some garlic power and oregano
Back on 350 for about 10-15 minutes and done!
I got the only two flavors they had a Chocolate Chip raspberry and a Honey with banana.
I didn't LOVE either to be honest! They were just ok. I have a thing about mixed textures so the Chocolate chip with raspberry was not my speed. The raspberry had seeds and just didn't make for a pleasant experience IMO! But I like smooth yogurt. The Honey and banana was just ok. It was a different taste so the newness of the flavor was good but I don't think I will be beating the doors down for either again.
I still had the fullness that comes with a Greek yogurt which was good but I would say its worth a try if you are bored wit the old flavors.
I also picked up the Yoplait Greek yogurt. Its only 100 calories so it saves you almost 50-60 from the Cho brand but has less protein and less taste. But again for the mix it up effect I wasn't mad at it!
Thursday, October 11, 2012
The word hypnosis (according to wikipedia) comes from the Greek word hypnosis which means sleep.
Hypnosis can be defined as:
a special psychological state with certain physiological attributes, resembling sleep only superficially and marked by a functioning of the individual at a level of awareness other than the ordinary conscious state.
Look deeply into my watch..You are feeling very sleepy... Yeah...didnt happen!
I mentioned a few entries ago that I opted to try 10 sessions to help with my weight loss efforts and I just completed session three. I liken it to mediating and I like that but I rarely make time for it. Having these sessions gives me dedicated time to do the things I know I should do to get my mind right.
The first session was just a brief introduction and going over the nuts and bolts of what it was to dispel any myths or misconceptions. We did a very brief session and it allowed me to get into a very good state I could hear everything going on and hear her voice but I did have the sensation of slipping away. I didn't like that lol what if she asked me to quack like a duck? LOL
Seriously though it might of just been a power and control thing with me the idea of slipping away, not being in control...
The second session was more intense and I did not feel relaxed at damn all! I was actually annoyed during the session it was more probing that suggestive in nature. I always thought in hypnosis they just put you "under" and tell you what to do and it seeps into your subconscious and you use it as another tool in your arsenal. But she was asking me direct questions about the level of responsibility I feel for my weight gain, how much do I contribute to poor decisions regarding food, etc. I was like WTH I didn't come for an intervention! LOL Before we began we picked fingers to represent yes, no, I don't know, and I don't want to know. I had to spend so much time remembering what finger was what I just couldn't relax. On top of that I think I felt judged like I was supposed to say my weight was my fault! Ok so I know I am the one that controls how much I eat and how much I exercise so yes I contribute to my weight BUT I have to say I am prone to being bigger than the normal 5'1.5'' girl! I guess if I carve out that excuse the Universe will give me all the evidence I need to support that fact so I need to rework my brain around that fact but still I didn't go there for that! After the session she asked me and I told her that's not what I signed up for it was way too much work. So she said the thrid one she will do suggestions. She told me to use an index card and write down reasons to be fit and healthy. I made up a list of 10 things; they were:
1) To feel good 2) Look good 3) Live longer 4) Be healthy 5) Enjoy life more 6) Inspire others 7) Respect myself 8) Wear cuter clothing 9) Be stronger 10) Be committed
She also suggested I write down some alternative behaviors but during the session we discussed the fact that I KNOWWWW all the right things to do... call a friend, go for a walk, take a nap, read a book, journal, etc. I rattled off like 10 things. So I know what to do I just don't do it consistently! So I did something different I found what we call in Weight Watchers an anchor. I found an affirmation to keep me grounded when I feel myself swaying. The one of found said
"I am strong beyond belief, I am powerful beyond measure!"
Session three was more what I expected. She started off with asking how the past week went and I told her I was feeling better (after a stomach virus) and I was really eating poorly and I knew it was stress related. I had a lot of meetings and running around to do and I was just happy I could eat again and I had some work stress. She asked me to pick one situation so we could talk about it. The one I discussed involved this attorney who was getting on my nerves by being unreasonable about a few things. Not huge deals but I have an issue with people thinking that can get over on me. Kid Fury just did a youtube video about Niki Minaj and Mariah Carey and their drama and I was sad to say I was Niki! I am not going to be punked buttt as Kid Fury said you are the one that ends up looking crazy. You gotta fight shade with shade lol
Ahhhh well anyway based on the stress he caused me I went for some chocolate I did not need and honestly did not enjoy. I learned a long diet time ago if you are going to have something make it good. A snickers bar is nothing in comparison to a Godiva anything so get a smaller portion of the good stuff and be done with it...Sorry for the sidebar... Anyway so we talked about fighting shade with shade lol no no we didn't we talked about holding onto images or a time when I felt good/proud/accomplished. After some talking the moment my Property Law professor told me I got the highest grade in her class and I dropped my water bottle in excitement and held my face like the Home Alone kid was it!
I've had a lot of good highlights in my life but this stood out because I worked HARD to do well I would have been happy for a B but to get an A and get the highest A in a 4 credit class in your first year of law school?!? Really it is a feeling I can't properly describe. But it was my moment. So he called today and I held onto that feeling answered his questions and sent him on his way. I did take a few deep breaths but I didn't have that rage or knot in my back that happens when I get upset...progress!
Anyway session three was more of what I expected she made suggestions about choices and reinforced my goals and the ability I have to set goals and achieve them and weight loss and health are no different. She also made me a CD that I used today before I began my work. I popped it in and I really felt more focused and relax afterwards. In fact, I bought a bag of cheese curls yesterday and kept the leftovers in my desk and I poured water in the bag and threw them away. That felt good. Oh that was another thing we discussed the fact that every time I do not give into a craving I increase my strength. So every time I say no, I get stronger and saying no gets easier. Kinda like dating the wrong guy lol
Well speaking of dating nothing much to update haven't found a code name for new guy so I'll just say the New Guy or NG. NG and I didn't make it out last weekend. It may have been a slight miscommunication or he could have been trying to test me and my patience. I gave him a lil bit of attitude but we ended up on the phone until 4am Sunday morning! Mind you I had to be up at 6am for the Junior League race and my chapter had a fundraiser that afternoon as well! Both turned out great! The Afternoon of Jazz was amazing! What a great event! The music, food, people - AWESOME!
So NG and I will try again this weekend which is a beast! Friday the Regional Committee I am on has a meet and greet in DC (I hope to see new guy after that), then Saturday we have an all day sorority conference back in DC again, Sunday another chapter of my sorority is having an anniversary luncheon I am going to. Then next thing I know it will be Monday again!
I told NG I was actually on a dating hiatus when we met and ironically he was too but he said I intrigued him so he didn't want to miss the opportunity to get to know me better. That makes it very low pressure and low risk for me and that's maybe what I need. He does ask some great questions and our conversations are never boring. He has the right mix of humor and seriousness that's hard to find. So I'll keep you posted!
My workouts for the week...are up in the air I did make it to the gym on Tuesday for spinning and a strength training class! It was good stuff! I was hoping to get there tonight before a Junior League meeting but a soror is having birthday happy hour I want to go to so unless I have some fight left in me after the meeting today looks like no go! Which means no workout until Sunday morning! :-( No bueno! My Life!!! What can I say!
I recorded my weight today and began using a new journal a soror gave me so we will see where I end up on 7 weeks! I would love to lose those 14 pounds I gained since getting better. So I am gonna work!
I'll be back soon! :-)
Friday, October 5, 2012
I know the mind game the body plays with weight loss so I expected these ravenous cravings but that doesn't excuse my behavior so its time to reel it in! I got used to seeing less of those number on the scale!
Well in an effort to mix it up I am going to try something new this week! Its called Baree! I was getting results with my workouts and I had a good two weeks of rest and now I want something else. I overheard some of my Junior League members talking about it and low and behold a livingsocial deal came across my email and I put a call out and one person texted me and said let's do it! Sooooo
So this Monday its on! I went to dinner at the 13.5% Wine Bar with a friend and mentioned it and she goes too! The place is closer to where I live than the livingsocial deal so if I like it I will take classes there! I'll be sure to report back! She already warned me they are very small but instense movements and she ends the class dripped in sweat so sounds like what I need!!
I am going to Weight Watchers this weekend to check in I should still be a pound or two down from my last visit. Aside from that I have my chapter meeting and possibly a date Saturday night. We'll see.
Sunday is the Junior League 5K and later that afternoon my chapter has a Fundraiser. Monday is a holiday! Thank goodness and I am working on decluttering my basement so I can finally get the tile finished in the basement! All good things!!
I have to add a before and during picture with my friend Dawn who had a pre-Birthday Happy Hour! It was a great time to catch up with my old work friends and boy does that feel like a lifetime ago!
Anyway can you tell a difference!
Tuesday, October 2, 2012
Life has been good but busy as per my usual! I am just getting over some stomach virus that helped me lose 10 pounds in 6 days! Nottt that I am complaining too much lol It helped me break my plateau and I am 9 pounds from goal again! Its been a great workout season ironically, however, I started losing when I backed off of the exercise. The body is so weird!
My clothing is wayyy loose and I can see a difference in the mirror. It’s a little surreal to be that close to goal again and I am already thinking what next. I now know maintenance is actually harder than losing and I just need to focus on savoring the moment.
Speaking of savoring…it’s been non stop events! The Junior League of Baltimore did an event called Sip, Savor, Shop! It was a fab concept! Food, WINE, shopping, & discounts for $25.00 a person! Very cool! I even won a cosmetic basket and free facial! I love it!
This weekend the winner from my Sorority’s Day at the Races fundraiser raffle invited me and a few others to her prize; which was a private wine tasting and pairing at Basignani Winery where I had my 35th Birthday party. Well I know the owner but she didn’t acknowledge me and finally I said “Hi there it’s Cylia! Good to see you thanks again for your donation!” And she looked dumbfounded and said “CYLIA? WOW! Is that really you?!” I said “Yes indeedy!” She still looked so shocked and gave me a big ole hug! LOL
I remembered it was two years ago and chimed in “Yeah I have lost a little weight!” She said “A LITTLE?! You look great! It was more than a little!” I said “Well, true maybe about 25 or so since then.” :-) She gave me kudos and I was reflecting on that and in actuality its more like 30 pounds. Its so weird I still don’t see that big of a difference but it was a good feeling to see her expression! J Good reminder to stay focused on these last 9 pounds!
In other weight loss news I actually decided to try something new! Hypnosis! I will blog more about that later it’s a 10 week thing and its to supplement my Weight Watchers, exercise, and vision boards. I just realize I need as much reinforcement as possible and its almost like meditating and getting to my subconscious mind to get it on board with the program to help with better choices and cravings. Again I will report back! But here's a quick article about it Weight Loss & Hypnosis.
5k Run & 1 Mile Walk
Date: October 7, 2012
Location: The Hunt Valley Towne Center in Sparks, MD
Time: 5k @ 8:00 AM, 1 mile walk begins immediately after
5k: $20 until August 17, $25 until October 3 ($30 at packet pickup and on race day)
1 Mile Walk: $15 until October 3 ($20 at packet pickup and on race day)
Of course I threw in the dating towel a few weeks ago (again) and then met two interesting men shortly thereafter. Paul won't be pleased that i gave up already since he warned me to be patient and think longterm so maybe that's God little reminder. Both are pretty unique and appealing in their own ways so I am gettign to know them and enjoyign that. No pressure. So anyhoo I will contact Paul after the 11th for the follow up. I still need to do most of my homework anyway lol Ahh always something!
|Sip, Savor, Shop @ Towson Town Center~ JLB|
|Paul & I|
|Foolin' with them Ques!|
|Back like it was! Skee Phi party with Rho Tau Lambda|
|Don't ask lol|
|Bmore Night Life!|
|At Phaze 10 in Baltimore|
|Got a few workouts in too! "Mr. Impress Me!"|
|Back to WORK!|
|Excited about what Fall will bring!|
Tuesday, August 14, 2012
My goodness it is already the middle of August!?! All together now "Where did the time go!?!" Well life has been good and busy and well after a bit of a hiatus I am theoretically dating again. I mentioned I secured the services of a Matchmaker/Dating Coach. A one Paul Brunson . If you don't know who he is yet...give it about a week and you will. :-)
The first session was pretty informative and I learned a lot about myself and I got a bit of homework. No sooner than I got my marching orders I met a bunch of men and some in the most unlikely places including a sorority event where I neverrr meet men! LOL
About a week ago I had a very different post but I got busy and never finished it and I guess I didn't save it either! Oops! At the time I had 2 dates lined up but didn't go to either. I am not sure what Paul's feedback will be once I give him the details but I just think timing and chemistry are important.
Anyway, the take away advice from Paul was the #1 way people still meet their mates is via friends and family. The #2 way is online dating. The up side is I know a gang of people, the down side no one has tried to hook me up in a meaningful way. Now it may be for two reasons that kind of go together... (1) I am very busy with life (2) I may not be viewed as "needing" a man. While I am proud to be as independent as the next woman I never thought I gave off the I don't need a man vibe. So that's something to work on...
Online dating I am not adverse to although my last experience was well...it wasn't good. I know plenty of happily married couples that "clicked" online so I threw my hat in the ring with some tweaking from Paul. I was slated to meet a guy this weekend but that situation went downhill pretty fast so it didn't happen. I am in various stages of talking to other guys but we will see where that goes.
The issue I always have is seeking balance. A good friend pointed out that I take things on as projects like my weight loss, my sorority, Junior League, school, etc. and right now I have some down time in all those other areas and so the level of frustration I am feeling is tied to the fact that I don't have my other distractions. He may be right...no he is right... I know people who have met their mates at the same events I have gone to or via the same ways I have tried to meet men and well my luck ain't their luck is all I can say lol Another guy said I am thinking about it too much that may be true but its not like I am sitting at home and not living life! Its like I am told to live my life and it will happen and while i do that people are saying you are too busy for someone. I mean whats a single girl with world domination on the mind to do? LOL No seriously what? Ah well thats what Paul is getting paid for right? :-)
Right now my workouts are king and there is a reason why people tend to gain weight when dating or when they get married because you spend time together and if you are not with someone equally interesting in health and fitness that can be a challenge. And honestly its not a challenge I need while I am trying to reach my goal of 23 pounds gone by the end of the year. Terrible ain't it?! So I may be getting in my own way becasue of that fear.
But we will see. I think we are what we attract and I think as I keep working on myself and the homework Paul gave me about my wants vs. needs it will come together. I have a follow up this week and we'll see how that goes.
I am finally getting back on some kind of a routine with my Personal Trainer Charles! Its been months at this point and every time I get back with him I remember why I make the investment/sacrifice to have a personal trainer! I am soooo sore! And its not like I haven't been working out because I have! But its just different when you have someone else to push you beyond what you think your limits are!
Right now my workouts look like this:
Mondays- Personal Training, Chizel It morning class & Chizel evening class
Wednesdays- Spinning & other cardio
Thursdays- Personal Training, Any other cardio/machines, etc
Saturday- Spinning/Body Combat/Body Pump
Sunday- Body Combat and other cardio
I am clocking some good hours and it feels good. I was feeling kinda salty or maybe pissy is a better word yesterday during my second Chizel it class because I was looking at other women in the class thinking I have to work twice as hard for half the results and that just got me into a foul mood. Poor Charles knows my moods and he called me on it lol
But I noticed that the shirt I was working out in was kind of big on me and I actually bought it like two years ago and when I got it, it was so tight I could barely get it over my belly! So I had to get my mind right. Because the negative thoughts were actually affecting my workout. I have been doing "Two A Days" for a few weeks now but last night I felt so winded and I kept stopping and I just realized that was me falling down mentally because I was comparing myself to these other women. My body will do what I tell it to but all that negative self talk was impacting that connection.
I still got a great workout and I went home and had two good conversations with two guys. The one guy from the AKA events I don't think its romantic connection in that sense but he is attractive, funny as heck, and very cool. The other guy has a Pharrell-esque thing going on and I am looking forward to getting to know him better.
I am still not in my normal happy go lucky space but it was raining cats and dogs this morning and I left my umbrella at work and I remembered I had a rain coat in my basement that I bought back in May but it was too tight. I really liked it got it in hot pink and black but barely wore it because I couldn't button it and the arms were way too tight but I figured it would be ready to wear by the fall. To my surprise I put it on and buttoned it up without even thinking and it fit! Talk about right on time!
I hateee bathroom self shots pictures LOL but I didn't want my coworkers asking why I needed to document this lol It just reminded me the only person I need to compare myself to is MYSELF! And that's not just in terms of weight loss but in all areas I think the areas I need to be most mindful of are relationships and weight loss because I really dont get down about other areas or goals so this was an on time reminder!
Have a great week! I'll check back in soon! I am 23 pounds away from my 2010 goal weight (1st pic) and 76 pounds from my start weight (2nd) I am excited and focused (me in scary bathroom self shot today)!
Friday, August 3, 2012
Wednesday, July 11, 2012
Friday, July 6, 2012
|That's the motto!|
FIRST! My 37th Birthday was AWESOMMEEEEE!!!! I am SOOOOOO grateful for my life and not just the fun times but literally for my life. The end of 2011 up until..well last week I have experienced a lot of death family members, friends, sorors. Some as young as 32 some as seasoned as in their 80s. I really can’t tell you how sobering it is for me to lose all these people back to back to back. I've been to more funerals in the last 6 months than in my entire life!
Its just renewed my belief in celebrating life and living my best life ever. So in keeping with that I picked an adventure themed birthday weekend which included white water rafting! I am awesome! Yup I said it!
|Wisp Resort so peaceful!|
|View from our room!|
|My Birthday Goodie bag for my guests :-)|
I came up wit the idea from a friend who went a few years ago and I thought what a great idea but at my highest weight I couldn’t really imagine doing that so set it as a goal threw it up on a vision board and when I began this blog I thought of all the things I could do with this new body and I posted a few on the poll and I am checking each item off 1) Hot Yoga – √ 2) Indoor rock climbing-√ 3) hiking-√, anddd now white water rafting-√
Here are a few pictures! And as my life would have it I was the ONLY one to end up in the dang gone water lol The 15 minute this is what to do if you fall out the boat message basically was “Keep Calm” so when I saw the Keep Calm & Love the Life You Live poster it seemed like a perfect fit! :-)
I had a blast!!! It was a great getaway and I would do it again in a second! I actually won two free white water rafting passes at my Sorors’s nonprofit’s annual fundraiser Hand in Hand Baltimore! As my life would have it I lost the certificates :-( I called the and even though they couldn't find it in the system they let me book the trip anyway! Of course I found it last week so I plan to scan and email the kind woman who believed me! The ASCI set up is great and our guide was awesome! I have been convinced to start a travel blog so I will put more details there on how it all works, cost, etc. In the meantime here are some pictures!
|Anddd we're off!|
|See how I am no where to be found?!?|
I know this was true in law school and I know that contributed to my weight gain because of the stress. I don’t know the take away other than I understand I use food for stress and as I work on reducing that I need to be mindful of what I am snacking on. Stick with zero point fruits and veggies or be mindful of the portions of the other types of snacks I keep around. I went shopping for stuff because I didn’t want to be at the mercy of the vending machines and that worked well.
|Conference stash didnt have half of it but better safe than sorry!|
I posted something on the article that basically said this information was liberating to me because I spent a lot of time beating myself up about not having enough self control and motivation to lose weight but its deeper than that its biological. Knowledge is power. So I am jumping out of my box while Charles is in transition (he is closing his gym this month) so I tired some new machines and my goodness is my body responding. I feel good. Stronger. Leaner. I set a goal earlier this year to lose 44 pounds by the end of the year I am already 10 pounds in! Leaving 33 to go! More info on Setpoint can be found. As I said on the board it goes under the file of life isnt fair but its good to know. I wont lose 5 pounds in a week like others b/c my body will crave high calorie/fat food to feel safe at its set point so I have to ride it out and workout hard. Or don't! My choice.
|On my way to my Aunt's 75th Bday dinner!|
|The beautiful birthday girl a two time brain cancer suvivor! She's amazing! 75 years young!|
|My fave Doc and Cuz all the way from JA!|
|My Cuz cuz (aka second cousin!)|
|Pine Bar & Grill very nice! The BX!|
|The pink BGR pom pom I am legit now!|
|At the July 4th Baltimore NPHC Day Party|
|SkeePhi- Rho Xi Omega's event with the Alphas|
|Birthday Cigars! Yes I am GROWN!|
|My Birthday Happy Hour!|
|My chapter Sorors!|
Life is good!
If you are keeping track I am back to being 75 pounds down! :-)
That's like the size of a 1st or 2nd grader! I didnt really appreicate that last time so I need to celebrate!